A lawyer versed in LGBT adoptions informs Candis that he/she must disclose the fact that he/she is Trans to the birth mother. The birth mother will have the power to veto the adoption if she’s not cool handing her baby over to a Trans parent:
Candis: Ignorance, transphobia-- a lot of times, it's not the person that's wanting to beat you up, it's the behind the scenes, finding out who and what you are, and not allowing you to get the bank loan, or not allowing you to get the job, or not allowing you to adopt the children. So, it's like, once again, another thing that I have to deal with because I'm Trans.
Excuse me, but someone not wanting their kid to be raised in a Trans house is not transphobia. Nor, is it somehow too much, or too inconvenient, for you to have to disclose the single biggest defining feature of your life to the woman deciding whether or not she wants to surrender her flesh and blood to you for the rest of their life.
Prospective adoptive parents have to release all kinds of information to show birth parents what kind of life their kid will end up living. I would think that the fact that you traipsed around the country in a bus, on a giant transgender road trip, would definitely qualify as pertinent info.
Not to mention the fact that there’s every possibility that the adoption, though liberating and thrilling as a civil rights event for the transgender community, could end up a completely mind-warping disaster for the kid involved.
But hey, why trifle with details?